How to set your boundaries
Learn how to set your boundaries to lay down ground rules and command the respect of chat room visitors.
Who is the boss of your chat room? It is YOU! Not those who enter!
A common problem for cam models, especially newbies, is site members trying to take advantage and tell them what to do.
Members can be cheeky, bossy and persistent at times.
When a model is told to do things for no financial reward, including demands for things she is not comfortable with, this is tedious.
Inexperienced models are vulnerable to this nature of exploitation, so gaining awareness of what boundaries are and how to set them is key.
Help with how to set your boundaries
First thing’s first, what are your boundaries? Do you know how to define them? Consider these questions:
- How do you want to appear to viewers? I advise, keep it classy for the most respectful approaches!
- What are you prepared to do and show on cam? Think about your comfort levels in live mode versus private mode.
- Which things are you not willing do on cam? Consider types of actions and shows involving nudity and sexual acts.
- What level of behaviour do you expect from your viewers? Consider if you are happy to have both interactive and non interactive viewers present, and determine who you will permit to chat/stay in your room.
- How you would like them to address and communicate with you? For example should they address you by name, by a title or by specific terms. Understand that politeness and common decency is what you deserve.
- Would there be any rules you would set (your own code of conduct) on top of the site rules? This could relate to financial things like minimums or pretips. It could also relate to things like interaction and behaviour.
It is really important to be clear on your answers. Answer them how you feel most comfortable. Write them down for your reference. This forms the basis of how to set your boundaries and ultimately, how to manage your chat room.
Form your chat room rules and add to your profile
All cam sites have a bio section on the model profiles, where models can write information about themselves. Depending on the site, some also have a chat room rules or chat room notice section.
Wherever there is a free format box to input your own text, is a good place to make your own boundaries and rules clear.
Type your own rules out in short bullet points. Bullet points are easy for people to read and understand. Keep it polite and friendly.
Example of chat room rules:
Welcome to my chat room! I love you being here, please follow my rules:
1. Please say hi when you enter and address me as xxxxxx (enter name or titles)
2. Be polite and respectful to me and all members.
3. I love playing so tip for what you want to see! It’s all in the tip menu.
4. If you cannot tip, please do not make requests or demands as these will not be fulfilled.
5. Continual demands or other rudeness will see you banned.
6. Public chat is xxxxxx (enter requirement e.g. non nude / topless only. Fully nude is in private.
7. Please do not ask me for xxxxxx (enter types of acts or shows you exclude), I do not do these shows.
8. I have a minimum private show time of xx minutes / $ (enter amount). Please respect this.
Work on your own chat room rules using this as a guideline… Then go online and put your rules into action!
Enforce your rules
When members come into your room, you will find that some are proactive and read the profile information. Many others are not and will not. You can never tell who will and who won’t, so start voicing it!
It is perfectly fine to ask members to read and observe your rules when they enter. It might feel a little awkward to start with! However the more you do this, the more natural it feels.
A simple: “Hi guys, welcome to my room! Please read my chat room rules so you know how to engage with me, you can find these xxxxxx (explain where)” – is sufficient.
Annabelle
Doing this is a polite ice-breaker and commands respect as soon as members meet you. It lets people know you have expectations and boundaries… and standards!
Be strong! Stick to your rules and never lose sight of your boundaries.
If these are questioned by any person, inform them that webcamming is your job. You are there to work and operate as a professional.
If they do not wish to comply, they can leave (or you can kick them out)!
You’ll soon be bossing your chat room before you know it! You got this!
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